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Top 10 Foods to Fight Stress

When you’re stressed out, the foods that you most likely turn to are typically your traditional ‘comfort’ foods – think big meals, take-out, fatty foods, sweet foods, and alcohol. Let’s face it – we’ve all found some comfort in a tasty meal and a bottle of beer or glass of wine when we’ve been stressed out or upset about something. However, this isn’t a good permanent solution.

When you’re turning to unhealthy foods you can feel better temporarily, but in the long run, you will feel worse. When your body isn’t getting the right nutrition, you can begin to feel less energetic, more lethargic, and in some cases less able to concentrate and focus. All of this can lead to even more stress.

Foods that Fight Stress

If you’ve been feeling more stressed out than usual lately, it’s important to know which foods are best to choose and which to avoid when it comes to combating stress and helping you to deal with feelings of stress and anxiety. The best way to fight stress is to have a healthy, balanced diet which includes a moderate amount of each of the different food groups.

Filling up on foods such as gluten free whole grains, leafy vegetables, and lean proteins as the basic staples of the diet is the best way to ensure that your body gets the optimum amounts of nutrients to fight both physical and mental health problems. When it comes to choosing the foods to eat, some have a range of great properties which help the body to combat stress. Choosing these stress-busting foods will help to add wellness and calm your mind permanently, rather than providing a temporary fix, and worsening your over-all wellbeing long term.

Here are my favorite top 10 foods to fight stress:

  1. Avocado – Avocados are a creamy and versatile fruit which can be eaten in a range of different ways whether you enjoy it raw, made into sauces, dressings and dips, or in a smoothie. These nutrient-dense fruits have the properties to stress-proof your body, thanks to their high glutathione content which specifically blocks the intestinal absorption of certain fats which cause oxidative damage. Avocados also contain higher levels of vitamin E, folate, and beta-carotene than any other fruit, which boosts their stress-busting properties. However, be careful with portion control when eating avocado, as it is high in fat.
  2. Blueberries – If you’re feeling stressed out and reaching for the snacks, swapping chocolate or chips for one of the best superfoods is a great way to help you deal with your stress levels and achieve a higher level of calm. Blueberries have some of the highest levels of antioxidants, especially antho-cyanin, which means that this berry has been linked to a wide range of health benefits including sharper cognition, better focus, and a clearer mind – all of which can help you to better deal with stress.
  3. Chamomile Tea – Of course, it’s not all about what you’re eating when it comes to managing stress; what you’re drinking can also alleviate or worsen the stress you’re feeling. Drinking liquids which are high in sugars and caffeine, such as coffee, energy drinks or soda, can actually increase your stress levels if consumed regularly. Chamomile tea has long been used as a natural bedtime soother, and it has also been used in clinical trials, which determined that chamomile tea is effective in reducing the symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder.
  4. Organic Dark Chocolate – Although it’s usually seen as an unhealthy treat, there is an undeniable link between chocolate and our mood. Studies have shown that eating chocolate can actually make you happier. However, that doesn’t mean that you can start munching on conventional chocolate bars (which contain very little chocolate and a ton of added sugar) every time you’re stressed out – chocolate works best as a de-stressor when eaten in moderation and as part of a healthy and balanced diet. Dark chocolate ,over 70% Cocoa in particular, is best for you, as it contains more flavonols and polyphenols, two hugely important antioxidants which can help combat stress, more than many fruit juices.
  5. Oatmeal – Oatmeal is great in that it can be a filling comfort food, but also has a large number of healthy properties to actually make you feel better from the inside out. A complex carbohydrate, eating oatmeal causes your brain to produce higher levels of the feel-good chemical serotonin, helping you to feel calmer and less stressed. Studies have shown that kids who choose oatmeal for breakfast tend to be much sharper throughout the morning in school compared to kids who had alternative morning meals.
  6. Walnuts – If you’re looking for a healthy snacking option which will help you to stay better in control of your stress levels, walnuts are a great choice. There is no denying the sweet, pleasant flavor of walnuts and they can be a tasty snack for in-between meals or as part of a desert. A versatile nut, walnuts are great for salads, or add them to a sweet treat such as coffee and walnut cake.
  7. Pistachios – another food which is great for snacking on and can also help to combat stress and anxiety in the long term is pistachios. Studies have found that simply eating two small, snack-size portions of pistachios per day can lower vascular constriction when you are stressed, putting less pressure on your heart by further dilating your arteries. Along with this, the rhythmic, repetitive act of shelling pistachios can actually be quite therapeutic!
  8. Green Leafy Vegetables – leafy, green vegetables should be a pivotal part of anyone’s diet. Along with helping to combat stress, leafy greens are full of nutrients and antioxidants which help to fight off disease and leave your body feeling healthier and more energized. Dark leafy greens, for example spinach, are especially good for you since they are rich in folate, which helps your body to produce more mood-regulating neurotransmitters such as serotonin, which is a ‘feel-good’ chemical. Making leafy greens a part of your diet will help you to feel happier and less stressed out overall.
  9. Fermented foods – Eating fermented foods, such as kimchi, can help to keep your gut healthy, which actually in turn will help to improve your mental health and reduce stress levels. The beneficial bacteria which are found in fermented foods actually have a direct effect on your brain chemistry and transmit positive mood and behavior regulating signals to your brain via the vagus nerve.
  10. Adaptogenic Herbs and/or Green Drinks – Not everyone has the discipline or the time to create 3 healthy meals and a selection of stress busting snacks every day. I may be the only one, but I believe strongly that in these cases, supplementation can be invaluable. Adaptogens are used in alternative medicine to counteract physical and emotional stress on the body. One of the most popular is Turmeric, which has been touted for its anti-inflammatory properties. Ashwagandha is an ancient medicinal herb said to reduce anxiety, help battle depression, and possibly boost brain function. Saffron, another famous antioxidant, is known to improve mood, enhance libido and reduce PMS symptoms. Green drinks can make up for a diet starved for dark leafy greens and a myriad of fruits and vegetables. Look for one that contains a rainbow of fruits and vegetables, and a variety of dark leafy greens. If you can find one with Spirulina, a superfood antioxidant with many health benefits, you will thank yourself later.

Here are 2 of my favorite supplements that I personally use daily:

Greens Balance Fruit and Vegetable Concentrate

InnerCalm Adaptogenic De-Stress Powder

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Glow up as you grow up

There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.     

— Sophia Loren

When I was a child, there was an old commercial about not wanting to grow up. It was a Toys R Us commercial, “I don’t wanna grow up, I’m a Toys R Us kid”. It really was a brilliant bit of advertising, because it not only stayed with me… It became a part of my personal paradigm.

Years later, I am “grown” and Toys R Us is gone. Now all of us TRU kids are lost and drifting on a tide of detox cleanses, anti-wrinkle creams and botox. It can get pretty overwhelming out there. Especially since most of us are just looking to raise our kids, get out of debt, and keep moving.

I decided to start this blog for all of you who have been asking for this. I get questions, all the time, about simple beauty tips, healthy skincare choices, low maintenance “how to’s” and how nutrition and exercise impact our “glow”. I have been asked for information on how to “keep it all together” and bring the inner beauty out again after childbirth and early child rearing, despite the temptations of quick fixes and guilty pleasures that meet us at every turn.

I do not have it all together. Nor do I have all the answers. I am, however, grateful for your faith in me, and for the many requests I have received over the last few years to put this together.

So here it is: Maria’s Aging Well. A Lifestyle and Beauty Blog on how real women and men of all shapes and sizes, from all walks of life, with all levels of experience (or inexperience) can bring their inner beauty to the surface through self-care and self-growth.

We can all thrive if we treat ourselves well , each other well, and the world well.

Petter Mörk

Why decision making sucks:

Are you tired or energized?

T.I.R.E.D.

Too much

Information

Running around

Expectations

Decision

E.N.E.R.G.I.Z.E.D.

Experience

New Skills and Ideas

Excitement

Relaxation and Renewal

Gratitude

Interest

Zen

Education

Decision

This bit of madness occurred in my instant pot. Would you eat it? Decisions, decisions…

Why, oh why is the word “decision” on both lists? 🤷🏻‍♀️

In the first acronym, “decision” is listed as a process. Decision – the action or process of deciding something.

In the second, “decision” is listed as a completed action. Decision – a conclusion or resolution reached after consideration.

The process of making a decision often sucks. 🤦🏽‍♀️

It can be exhausting. And in the case of unpleasant decisions (or decisions limited by resources), the process seems like it’s never-ending.

-Clean up the dog poop or the overturned garbage can?

-In-home care or assisted living?

-Get another job or cancel the cable?

-Replace the septic or put the honey-dipper on speed dial.

Hmmm, a choice between multiple crappy things? Awesome. 😐 💩

If you are lucky enough to have a gaggle of fabulous choices in front of you, that is WAY better.

-Mercedes, Tesla, or something different yet equally sweet?

-Chocolate, marshmallows, or another yummy confection?

-Public, private, or home-school?

-Art, music, or surfing?

Choosing between an infinite supply of awesome can still be tiring because deciding when all the options are great is hard. But, it is so much more fun!

Strangely, it is “not making a decision” that seems to be the most exhausting.

Indecision is the real buzz-kill. It’s like running an internal marathon that keeps moving the finish line farther away. Its groundhog day—a cycle of redundancy—purposelessness. 

The simple act of making a quick decision and acting upon it is energizing. Even if you are choosing to clean up dog poop.

bad dog, I still love you… so much

So, what do you do when you are trapped in T.I.R.E.D.?  

Easy:

  1. Drink a Fizz Stick. 💪🏼 Eventually, you will ask yourself why the heck you took so long to listen to me about that— life-changing.
  2. Make a stinkin’ decision and haul ass on execution. 🏃🏻‍♀️ The faster you step into action, the sooner you will feel that energy bubbling inside of you.
  3. Create a reality in which you have more positive choices. 🎁💐💝Don’t be a “settling Suzie.” If you don’t like the options you have laid out in front of you, change your circumstances by stepping outside your comfort zone. Stretch for more. You do NOT have to accept things as they are unless you don’t plan on taking any action to change.
  4. Take absurdly good care of yourself. 🧖🏼‍♀️ It’s easier to believe you are worthy of having many excellent choices when you are consistent about treating yourself like a Queen. And, when you feel good, you are far more likely to take action, and action is what creates choices when you get down to it.
  5. Learn something new. 📚 The fastest way to shake things up for the better is to learn a new skill and immediately implement it.
  6. Express gratitude every chance you get. 🙏🏼 Be that weirdo that asks for the manager or sends a thank you note/email when things go well, instead of when things go poorly. You’ll be surprised at how energizing that can be.
  7. Rest, both active and passive, is a necessity for survival. 🛌 Don’t be a hero. Get some.

Message me with some ways that you overcome burn-out and energize yourself.

I am always looking for ideas, and I am happy to share what I find with you as well. 📝

XO Maria

𝗠𝘆 𝗴𝗼-𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗮𝗶𝗹𝘆 𝗵𝗮𝗯𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲 “𝗹𝗶𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗺” 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗮𝗶𝗻𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲

Public

Public

I am posting about this today because someone I mentor recently told me of the shift this has created for her, and I thought some of you would appreciate it.⠀Every morning, I make a journal entry dated for the future.⠀

𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙧𝙞𝙜𝙝𝙩; 𝙙𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙙 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙛𝙪𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙚.⠀

Sometimes I date it for a day in the future. Sometimes I date it for ten years in the future. It could be any date in between or later. But it is always written as if today is that future date, and I am writing a memory.⠀

I write about my 𝘃𝗶𝗯𝗿𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵 and the fantastic health of my husband and children.⠀

I write about the 𝗵𝗼𝗺𝗲 we are building and every detail of the yard, landscaping, animals, interior, decorating, and amenities.⠀

I write about the 𝘁𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗻𝗱𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝘀𝘂𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 of the people I am mentoring and my👏🏼 joy👏🏼 in seeing them thrive.⠀

I write about my success and the success of 𝗺𝘆 𝗯𝗲𝗮𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗳𝘂𝗹, 𝗺𝗶𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘂𝗹𝗼𝘂𝘀 𝗯𝘂𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘀. ⠀

I write about the people I have not yet met that I have 𝗲𝗺𝗽𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗿𝗶𝘃𝗲 in building their businesses.⠀

I write about my workshop and 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀 𝗜 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘁𝗲 there.⠀All 𝗮𝘀 𝗶𝗳 𝗶𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗱, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘤𝘰𝘳𝘥 𝘰𝘧 𝘪𝘵.⠀

This practice is not new. It is called “𝙑𝙞𝙨𝙞𝙤𝙣 𝘾𝙖𝙨𝙩𝙞𝙣𝙜.”

I have heard countless gurus, educators, and mentors speak about this and the power it holds. ⠀From Tony Robbins, the king of self-development, to Chris Prouty, the prince of organic client attraction strategies. From Debbie Neal, the queen of empowerment, to the Oprah Winfrey, The Queen period. Even the 𝙂𝙧𝙚𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙨𝙩 𝘽𝙤𝙤𝙠 𝙤𝙛 𝘼𝙡𝙡 𝙏𝙞𝙢𝙚.⠀

“𝘈𝘴 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘦𝘵𝘩 𝘪𝘯 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵, 𝘴𝘰 𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦.” ⠀

Proverbs 23:7

It is all about having the mindset that “𝘈𝘴 𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘸𝘰𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘬𝘦𝘵𝘩 𝘪𝘯 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘵, 𝘴𝘰 𝘪𝘴 𝘩𝘦.” ⠀

𝘗𝘳𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘣𝘴 23:7.

This is to say when you keep your dreams and desires front and center in your mind, you are far more likely to t𝙩𝙖𝙠𝙚 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙖𝙘𝙩𝙞𝙤𝙣𝙨 𝙣𝙚𝙘𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙖𝙧𝙮 to create those things for yourself.⠀

In the words of the beautiful, vibrant, magnetic human being I was working with yesterday, ⠀

“𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘮𝘺 𝘷𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨, 𝘢𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘴𝘶𝘨𝘨𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘥. 𝘐 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘩𝘢𝘴 𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘪𝘯 𝘮𝘺 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘥𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴. 𝘐 𝘸𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘦𝘹𝘤𝘶𝘴𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘱𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘵𝘰 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘭𝘺 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘺𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘢𝘴 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘪𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘺 𝘨𝘰𝘢𝘭𝘴”.⠀

Friends, that shift is 𝙏𝙃𝙀 𝙎𝙃𝙄𝙁𝙏.⠀

The problem with most home-based businesses is that the training never addresses this one essential part of creating success; 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘴𝘦𝘵.⠀

If you do not believe it is possible, why would you lift a finger to do the work? Lack of belief is the plague of so many small business owners.⠀

Here is why I coach my team to journal their future (as if it’s happening now) every day. Because when we build our belief and keep our vision close, our actions follow suit.⠀

𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙝𝙖𝙫𝙚 𝙩𝙚𝙖 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙘𝙖𝙩𝙘𝙝 𝙪𝙥, 𝙢𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙢𝙚.𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙖 𝙥𝙖𝙧𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙢𝙮 𝙩𝙚𝙖𝙢 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙘𝙤𝙖𝙘𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙢𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙢𝙚.𝙄𝙛 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙬𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙬𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙄 𝙖𝙢 𝙩𝙖𝙡𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙖𝙗𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙘𝙪𝙧𝙞𝙤𝙪𝙨 𝙩𝙤 𝙨𝙚𝙚 𝙞𝙛 𝙞𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙖 𝙛𝙞𝙩 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪, 𝙢𝙚𝙨𝙨𝙖𝙜𝙚 𝙢𝙚… 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙣𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙠𝙣𝙤𝙬.⠀

Below please find some quotes from very famous entities and people who have been life changers and world event movers who speak to this point:⠀

𝐴𝑛𝑑 𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔𝑠, 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡𝑠𝑜𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑎𝑠𝑘 𝑖𝑛 𝑝𝑟𝑎𝑦𝑒𝑟, 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑣𝑖𝑛𝑔, 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠ℎ𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑟𝑒𝑐𝑒𝑖𝑣𝑒.” – 𝑀𝑎𝑡𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑤 21:22⠀

𝑁𝑒𝑔𝑙𝑒𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑡𝑜 𝑏𝑟𝑜𝑎𝑑𝑒𝑛 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑖𝑟 𝑣𝑖𝑒𝑤 ℎ𝑎𝑠 𝑘𝑒𝑝𝑡 𝑠𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑝𝑒𝑜𝑝𝑙𝑒 𝑑𝑜𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑜𝑛𝑒 𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑙𝑙 𝑡ℎ𝑒𝑖𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑣𝑒𝑠.”― 𝑁𝑎𝑝𝑜𝑙𝑒𝑜𝑛 𝐻𝑖𝑙𝑙, 𝑇ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑘 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝐺𝑟𝑜𝑤 𝑅𝑖𝑐ℎ: 𝑇ℎ𝑒 𝐿𝑎𝑛𝑑𝑚𝑎𝑟𝑘 𝐵𝑒𝑠𝑡𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑙𝑒𝑟 𝑁𝑜𝑤 𝑅𝑒𝑣𝑖𝑠𝑒𝑑 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑈𝑝𝑑𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑑 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑒 21𝑠𝑡 𝐶𝑒𝑛𝑡𝑢𝑟𝑦.⠀

𝐼𝑓 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑠𝑒𝑒 𝑖𝑡 𝑖𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑. 𝑌𝑜𝑢’𝑙𝑙 ℎ𝑜𝑙𝑑 𝑖𝑡 𝑖𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 ℎ𝑎𝑛𝑑. – 𝐵𝑜𝑏 𝑃𝑟𝑜𝑐𝑡𝑜𝑟⠀

𝐴𝑠𝑘 𝑓𝑜𝑟 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑤𝑎𝑛𝑡 𝑎𝑛𝑑 𝑏𝑒 𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑝𝑎𝑟𝑒𝑑 𝑡𝑜 𝑔𝑒𝑡 𝑖𝑡. – 𝑀𝑎𝑦𝑎 𝐴𝑛𝑔𝑒𝑙𝑜𝑢⠀

𝑊ℎ𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟 𝑦𝑜𝑢 ℎ𝑜𝑙𝑑 𝑖𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑑 𝑜𝑛 𝑎 𝑐𝑜𝑛𝑠𝑖𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑛𝑡 𝑏𝑎𝑠𝑖𝑠 𝑖𝑠 𝑒𝑥𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑙𝑦 𝑤ℎ𝑎𝑡 𝑦𝑜𝑢 𝑤𝑖𝑙𝑙 𝑒𝑥𝑝𝑒𝑟𝑖𝑒𝑛𝑐𝑒 𝑖𝑛 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒. – 𝑇𝑜𝑛𝑦 𝑅𝑜𝑏𝑏𝑖𝑛𝑠⠀

𝐼𝑚𝑎𝑔𝑖𝑛𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛 𝑖𝑠 𝑒𝑣𝑒𝑟𝑦𝑡ℎ𝑖𝑛𝑔. 𝐼𝑡 𝑖𝑠 𝑡ℎ𝑒 𝑝𝑟𝑒𝑣𝑖𝑒𝑤 𝑜𝑓 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒’𝑠 𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑎𝑡𝑡𝑟𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠. – 𝐴𝑙𝑏𝑒𝑟𝑡 𝐸𝑖𝑛𝑠𝑡𝑒𝑖𝑛⠀

𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑓𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑔ℎ𝑡𝑠. 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑡ℎ𝑜𝑢𝑔ℎ𝑡𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑑𝑠. 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑤𝑜𝑟𝑑𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠. 𝑌𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑎𝑐𝑡𝑖𝑜𝑛𝑠 𝑏𝑒𝑐𝑜𝑚𝑒 𝑦𝑜𝑢𝑟 ℎ𝑎𝑏𝑖𝑡𝑠. – 𝑀𝑎ℎ𝑎𝑡𝑚𝑎 𝐺𝑎𝑛𝑑ℎ𝑖⠀

photo of me leading an expedition on none other than The Millenium Falcon.#funzoomjune a week early lol

11Bonnie Brown Kind, Krissy Bee and 9 others

𝟰 n𝗮𝘀𝘁𝘆 l𝗶𝗲𝘀 t𝗵𝗮𝘁 d𝗶𝗲𝘁 f𝗮𝗱𝘀 t𝗲𝗹𝗹 𝘂𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝗻𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱:

If you have spent the last 18 months breaking all the rules in a misguided attempt to cure your 2020 blues

𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙣𝙤𝙩 𝙖𝙡𝙤𝙣𝙚.⠀⠀

The “none of my skinny jeans fit” and “the #babyinstagrammers are saying they aren’t cool anymore” laments are two I often hear, both inside my head and from the other moms I see while shuttling the kids to their activities.⠀

Fad after recycled fad is being tossed around, from intermittent fasting (𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘷𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘥𝘪𝘦𝘵, 1915) to keto (𝘩𝘪𝘱𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘈𝘵𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘴 𝘥𝘪𝘦𝘵, 2003) to slim fast (𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 1982? 𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘪𝘧 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘪𝘵 𝘢𝘵 𝘊𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘤𝘰, 𝘭𝘰𝘰𝘬 𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘭𝘢𝘣𝘦𝘭!)⠀

Against the rising tide of underaged fashionistas, a rebel chorus rings robust, proud, and true through the millennial and gen-ex chaos:⠀

“𝘛𝘩𝘦𝘺 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘱𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘮𝘺 𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘺 𝘫𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘴 𝘰𝘧𝘧 𝘮𝘺 𝘤𝘰𝘭𝘥 𝘥𝘦𝘢𝘥 𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘺.”

“𝘐 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘤𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 #𝘣𝘢𝘣𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘢 𝘴𝘢𝘺𝘴. 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘺 𝘴𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘵!”

“𝘐 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘯𝘺 𝘫𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘴 𝘪𝘯 10 𝘴𝘪𝘻𝘦𝘴; 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘭 𝘯𝘰, 𝘐 𝘢𝘮 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘳𝘦𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮!”⠀

-every middle aged badass I know

I stand with you, super-hot, middle-aged sister.⠀

Here’s the issue.

There are far too many fads out there that make outrageous claims, like:⠀

𝗜𝘁’𝘀 𝗲𝗮𝘀𝘆. (𝘐 𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘴𝘩𝘦𝘯𝘢𝘯𝘪𝘨𝘢𝘯𝘴. 𝘐𝘧 𝘪𝘵 𝘸𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘺, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘯’𝘵 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘥𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘥𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭𝘰𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘨𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘩 𝘰𝘯 𝘣𝘶𝘵𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘸𝘢𝘪𝘴𝘵 𝘦𝘯𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘪𝘭𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘐𝘯𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘨𝘳𝘢𝘮 – 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘴𝘵𝘰𝘱 𝘪𝘵).⠀

𝗜𝘁 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸𝘀 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲. (𝘕𝘰𝘱𝘦, 𝘰𝘯 𝘢 𝘳𝘰𝘱𝘦. 𝘕𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘬𝘴 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺𝘰𝘯𝘦. 𝘞𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘥𝘪𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘵. 𝘖𝘶𝘳 𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘪𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘲𝘶𝘦. 𝘖𝘶𝘳 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭 𝘰𝘣𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘤𝘭𝘦𝘴 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘳. 𝘙𝘦𝘴𝘶𝘭𝘵𝘴 𝘷𝘢𝘳𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘯𝘰 𝘨𝘶𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘦𝘴 𝘶𝘯𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘭𝘺𝘪𝘯𝘨.)⠀

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗳𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗵𝘂𝗻𝗴𝗿𝘆. (𝘚𝘦𝘳𝘪𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘭𝘺? 𝘍𝘰𝘳 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘭𝘶𝘤𝘬𝘺 𝘧𝘦𝘸 𝘸𝘩𝘰 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦𝘯’𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘦𝘯 𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘢 𝘧𝘦𝘸 𝘦𝘹𝘵𝘳𝘢 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘴 𝘢 𝘥𝘢𝘺, 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘮𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘣𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘦. 𝘈𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘦𝘴, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦 𝘨𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵, 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘢𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴𝘴𝘶𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘲𝘶𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 “𝘮𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴.” 𝘉𝘶𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘳𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘭𝘬 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘶𝘴, 𝘪𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘣𝘳𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘴 𝘢𝘣𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦.)⠀

𝗔𝗹𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘀 𝗰𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀, 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀. (𝘞𝘪𝘵𝘤𝘩, 𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦. 𝘙𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘢𝘳𝘤𝘩 𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘸𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘭𝘺 𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘤𝘵, 𝘦𝘹𝘤𝘭𝘶𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘥𝘪𝘦𝘵𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘢 𝘳𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘰𝘯 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘦𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘢𝘨𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵 𝘳𝘰𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘳𝘤𝘰𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘳. 𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘴𝘦, 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘴𝘦 𝘵𝘺𝘱𝘦𝘴 𝘰𝘧 𝘥𝘪𝘦𝘵𝘴 𝘤𝘢𝘯 𝘤𝘰𝘯𝘵𝘳𝘪𝘣𝘶𝘵𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘰𝘳𝘥𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘥 𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘯 𝘴𝘰𝘮𝘦. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥 “𝘭𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘵” 𝘪𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮 “𝘦𝘹𝘤𝘭𝘶𝘥𝘦” 𝘪𝘴 𝘳𝘪𝘴𝘬𝘺 𝘶𝘯𝘭𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘴𝘦𝘦𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘰𝘭𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴.)⠀⠀

So, what is the point of this rant?⠀

It is time for a return to sanity and a return to our skinny-jean-loving selves.⠀

Things we already know that we may have pretended to forget:⠀

𝗣𝗹𝗮𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗶𝗻; 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗳𝗮𝗶𝗹 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗻. (𝘔𝘦𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘯𝘢𝘤𝘬 𝘱𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘦𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴𝘢𝘳𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢𝘯𝘺 𝘭𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘭 𝘰𝘧 𝘴𝘶𝘤𝘤𝘦𝘴𝘴. 𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘶𝘯𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘥, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘰𝘮𝘦𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘤𝘳𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘶𝘯𝘥𝘦𝘳 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘧𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘨𝘶𝘦.)⠀

𝗦𝗹𝗼𝘄 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘀𝘁𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝘄𝗶𝗻𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗮𝗰𝗲. (𝘚𝘱𝘦𝘦𝘥 𝘬𝘪𝘭𝘭𝘴. 𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘩𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘵𝘩 𝘪𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘢 𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘳 𝘢 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘱𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘵𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵 𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘭𝘭. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘱𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘶𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘪𝘯𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦, 𝘪𝘯𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘭, 𝘭𝘢𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘺𝘭𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘴𝘪𝘨𝘯𝘪𝘧𝘪𝘤𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘭𝘺 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘲𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘰𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘶𝘵𝘶𝘳𝘦.)⠀

𝗜𝗻𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝘀𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗾𝘂𝗮𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗯𝗶𝗼-𝗮𝘃𝗮𝗶𝗹𝗮𝗯𝗹𝗲 𝗻𝘂𝘁𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗹𝗶𝗺𝗶𝘁 𝗶𝗻𝗳𝗹𝗮𝗺𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗼𝗿𝘆 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗮𝗱𝗱𝗶𝗰𝘁𝗶𝘃𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗼𝗱𝘀. (𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘳𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘺 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥, “𝘭𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘵,” 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘴 𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘤𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨. 𝘛𝘩𝘦 𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘴𝘵 𝘸𝘦𝘦𝘬 𝘪𝘴 𝘮𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘰𝘭𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘧𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘴, 𝘤𝘰𝘮𝘮𝘶𝘯𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘲𝘶𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺 𝘸𝘩𝘰𝘭𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘰𝘥 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘭𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘴, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘶𝘱𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵. 𝘈𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵, 𝘪𝘵 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭𝘴 𝘨𝘰𝘰𝘰𝘰𝘰𝘰𝘰𝘥.)⠀

𝗦𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗱𝗮𝘆, 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗱𝗮𝘆, 𝗮𝘀 𝗺𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝘀 𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲𝘀. (𝘗𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘪𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘪𝘨𝘨𝘦𝘴𝘵 𝘭𝘪𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘢𝘭𝘭. 𝘙𝘦𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘳, 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘥 “𝘭𝘪𝘮𝘪𝘵” 𝘣𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘴 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮 “𝘦𝘹𝘤𝘭𝘶𝘥𝘦.” 𝘉𝘺 𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘳𝘰𝘢𝘤𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘭𝘦𝘹𝘪𝘣𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘵𝘺, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘢𝘣𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘰𝘯 𝘴𝘩𝘪𝘱 𝘦𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘺 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘲𝘶𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘣𝘭𝘦 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘪𝘤𝘦. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘦𝘤𝘪𝘥𝘦 𝘵𝘰 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘦 𝘢 𝘣𝘦𝘵𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘰𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥.)⠀

𝗬𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗯𝗲𝗮𝘂𝘁𝗶𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗮𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲. (𝘠𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘥𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘴 𝘴𝘪𝘻𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘦𝘴 𝘯𝘰𝘵 𝘥𝘦𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶. 𝘍𝘰𝘤𝘶𝘴 𝘰𝘯 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘰𝘷𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘭𝘭 𝘸𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴; 𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘥, 𝘣𝘰𝘥𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘴𝘱𝘪𝘳𝘪𝘵. 𝘠𝘰𝘶 𝘢𝘳𝘦 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘭𝘺 𝘮𝘢𝘥𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘢 𝘷𝘪𝘣𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘭𝘪𝘧𝘦. 𝘊𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘮 𝘪𝘵. 𝘓𝘪𝘷𝘦 𝘪𝘵. 𝘗𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦, 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘥𝘰 𝘪𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘣𝘳𝘢𝘨𝘨𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘴. 𝘗𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦 𝘥𝘰𝘯’𝘵 𝘥𝘰 𝘪𝘵 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘣𝘦𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘦 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘢𝘧𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘱𝘩𝘰𝘵𝘰𝘴. 𝘗𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘴𝘦, 𝘥𝘰 𝘪𝘵 𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘰𝘧 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧, 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘧𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘭𝘺, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘭𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘷𝘪𝘵𝘺.)⠀If you can relate, we should connect and remind each other of how awesome we are regularly.

𝙒𝙚 𝙖𝙧𝙚 𝙗𝙚𝙩𝙩𝙚𝙧 𝙩𝙤𝙜𝙚𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙧.⠀

XO Maria

The perfect late summer lip

“The morning had dawned clear and cold, with a crispness that hinted at the end of summer.”

— George R.R. Martin, Game of Thrones

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It’s that magical time of summer in Easton, PA when the breeze is just cool enough to keep you from sweating your makeup off the second you step outside. Your tan is perfect. You barely need bronzer, but you put it on anyway. Colorful EVERYTHING is still in style and flowers are printed EVERYWHERE. It is a Monday night in late summer and the kids are away, so of course you are headed out and about in the artisanal and somewhat hipster city of Easton to check out the sights and see what new weird has bloomed downtown in the last 24 hours. But what to wear to compliment this Japanese inspired red tank from Old Navy? Why, Jasmine of course.

Enter one of my favorite treats, the Double Take Matte & Shine Duo in Jasmine by Arbonne. I am slightly obsessed with this shade for this time of year. It is pink perfection minus the cliché. Everything I am wearing in this late summer look is listed below. Enjoy!!

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Double Take Matte & Shine Duo in Jasmine

Makeup Primer

The Real Conceal in Light

Perfecting Liquid Foundation in Neutral Beige

Starlight Glow Palette (Bronzer, Glow, Blush, Highlight)

Speak Volumes Mascara

It’s All in the Eyes Palette Volume 1 (Fog/Caraway/Desert)

It’s a Fine Line Liquid Eye Liner in Arbor

Shape it Up Brow Pencil in Light

Poison isn’t Pretty: Top 20 Ingredients to avoid putting on or in your body.

isn’t pretty.
  1. Hydroquinone 
    Hydroquinone is a skin lightener that causes skin irritation and may be linked to certain cancers. It is used in many “anti-aging” products out there.
  2. Parabens 
    Parabens have been linked to endocrine disruption, which may increase the risk of certain cancers. Here are some you might see on a label: ethylparaben, butylparaben, isobutylparaben, isopropylparaben, methylparaben, and propylparaben. Most skincare products contain multiple parabens, so turn your bottles around and check!
  3. Petrolatum or Mineral Oil
    Petrolatum is a common skincare filler and “skin protectant” that is a by-product of the distillation of gasoline (petroleum). It almost always contains the impurity polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons (PAHs), which have been linked to cancer. It is also an occlusive, which means it clogs pores and disrupts the skin’s natural detoxification processes. This ingredient is usually in the top three ingredients of skincare and cosmetics products.
  4. Phthalates 
    Phthalates are plasticizing ingredients commonly used in fragrances as a solvent and skin fixative. Phthalates have been linked to endocrine disruption and may cause birth defects. Here are some you might see on a label: dibutylphthalate (DBP), dimethylphthalate (DMP), diethylphthalate (DEP)] . Check your kid’s products for this. It is also common in children’s products because of its affect on texture.
  5. Sodium laureth sulfate (SLES) and sodium lauryl sulfate (SLS) 
    Sodium laureth sulfate (SLES) and sodium lauryl sulfate (SLS) are harsh surfactants that can cause skin irritation or allergic reactions. Moreover, SLES often contains the impurity 1,4-dioxane, a by-product from its manufacturing process, which is a potential carcinogen. You will find this in all of your cleansers, including face wash, hand wash, shampoo, clothing detergents, and dish soap.
  6. Formaldehyde-donating preservatives 
    Formaldehyde is a known human carcinogen that is also linked to asthma and developmental toxicity. Companies can be pretty sneaky about labeling so here are some ingredients that will show up on skincare labels that are actually FDPs: quaternium-15, DMDM hydantoin, imidazolidinyl urea, and methylisothiazolinone. There are more but these are the most common. This is the most common preservative used to skincare, cosmetics, and personal care products in the United States.
  7. Triclosan 
    Triclosan is an antibacterial agent which causes skin irritation and has been linked to endocrine disruption. It is also bioaccumulative (which means it builds up in your body over time) and potentially toxic to aquatic organisms. Think about the sea turtles, and their friends.
  8. Ethanolamines (MEA/DEA/TEA) 
    Frequently used in cosmetics as emulsifiers, foaming agents or pH adjusters. Based on studies, they are linked to organ system toxicity, cancer, and environmental concerns of bioaccumulation.
  9. Butylated hydroxytoluene (BHT)/Butylated hydroxyanisole (BHA) 
    Petroleum-derived antioxidants used to extend shell life of product, BHA and BHT can induce allergic reactions in skin. They are also likely carcinogens and hormone disruptors.
  10. Methylisothiazolinone (MIT) and methylchloroisothiazolinone (MCT) 
    Together they are commonly noted as Kathon CG on a label. This chemical preservative is widely used in cosmetics, and are the most common irritants, sensitizers, and cause of contact skin allergies. They are also linked to lung toxicity and possibly neurotoxicity.
  11. Artificial flavors and sweeteners 
    This might be a touchy subject, but I would much rather have a limited amount of the real thing than a chemical shit-storm that could wreak untold havoc on my body. Sugar is not evil. Anything in excess is unhealthy. Real is good. Fake is bad. There are so many, I will have to do a separate blog post on them. Just know that most of them have been linked to multiple health risks, so it’s best to stay away. Pure stevia is ok, as it is an actual plant. But most popular products blend stevia with chemical sweeteners, so watch out.
  12. Synthetic fragrances and dyes 
    Since many synthetic fragrances and dyes are petroleum-derived, they may contain components which are potential hormone disruptors, allergens, and environmental toxins. Remember, real is good. Fake is bad.
  13. Gluten 
    Ingredients such as wheat, rye, and barley contain gluten protein may cause major health issues to those with gluten intolerance, sensitivity or allergy. This is a big deal for me, as I have medical issues with gluten, but everyone can benefit from less gluten in their life. Look out for a separate blog post from me on the forced evolution of wheat, and the resulting consequences on our collective gut.
  14. Peanuts
    Ingredients derived from peanuts can cause potential allergic reactions in many people. In fact, some folks could die from being in the same room as your lunch sandwich. So, unless you have this allergy, this is just about being polite.
  15. Soy 
    Soy and soy derivatives contain a protein which may cause potential allergic reactions in many people. Soy also affects the body’s hormonal levels, and may have links to mood issues in men and breast cancer in women.
  16. High fructose corn syrup 
    High fructose corn syrup is everywhere in sodas and other sweet drinks. Researchers are now questioning whether it is a major contributor to obesity and other health concerns (is there really a question, people?). There are even lip glosses and lipsticks that contain this ingredient! This is the overkill side of sugar. A little goes a long way y’all. And this ingredients does not metabolize in our bodies in the same way as natural sugar.
  17. Canola Oil 
    Canola oil is derived from the rapeseed plant. There is a lot of suspicion around this ingredient, due to its likelihood of being GMO derived and the way our bodies metabolize it. Until further evidence is collected, steer clear of this in your nutrition products and foods.
  18. Trans Fats 
    Trans fats are well researched for their detrimental effects on cholesterol levels — namely, increasing LDL (bad) cholesterol and reducing HDL (good) cholesterol — and increasing the risk of diabetes, heart disease and stroke. If you are unfamiliar with the idea of good versus bad fats, I plan to do a blog entry on this topic soon.
  19. Talc 
    Talc is a common cosmetic ingredient, and is used as an anti-caking/anti-clumping agent. Talc is often contaminated with asbestos fibers which possess risks for respiratory toxicity and cancer. Recently, talc has also been linked to some reproductive cancers.
  20. Animal products or by-products 
    Whether we are vegan or not, none of us wants to be a part of the torture of animals in product testing labs. Nor do we really have an interest in our skincare having fillers produced by rendering plants (which process roadkill and the leftovers from meat processing plants). Finally, on the nutrition side, it is best to steer clear of dairy by products as more than 1/3 of the population is not able to digest cow’s milk. Say no to bloat!